How often do you or your partner stretch the truth when it comes to sex? Here are 10 of the most common lies people tell in bed and what they really mean. You might just learn something new!
1. “I came.”
Translation: “I want to keep seeing you."
Many people fake orgasms to please their partners. According to statistics, 34% of women never experience orgasms, while the rest might not experience their first until years into their sexual lives. If you can’t admit you didn’t orgasm, try saying, “That was amazing” instead.
2. “I’ve had many partners.”
Translation: “I’m experienced and worth your time.”
This is often an attempt to impress, but it may backfire as it can make the other person feel like just another conquest. Ignore the boasting—it’s just a poor way of getting your attention.
3. “Of course, I didn’t sleep with him.”
Translation: “I want us to be serious.”
Women often downplay their sexual history to seem “cleaner” or more innocent. Be vague about your past and avoid specifics—it’s okay to have some secrets.
4. “That was the best sex ever.”
Translation: “Thank you.”
Studies show women often exaggerate their satisfaction. Men, on the other hand, tend to skip compliments or use them to encourage their partner to improve. Ask your partner, “Did you enjoy it?” to get useful feedback.
5. “I don’t have erotic fantasies.”
Translation: “I want rough sex with two muscular guys but won’t admit it.”
Most people have fantasies. Sharing them can improve intimacy. Watching something sexy together can help break the ice.
6. “I slept with her, but I didn’t like her.”
Translation: “Don’t make a scene.”
Casual sex without attraction is rare in adulthood. If it happened, there was likely some appeal. Make your conclusions accordingly.
7. “Size doesn’t matter.”
Translation: “I don’t want to hurt your feelings.”
If size or something else is an issue, find a kind way to express your concerns—or move on without making hurtful comments.
8. “You’re bad in bed.”
Translation: “I’m angry, and I want to hurt you.”
Criticism in the bedroom can be deeply wounding and almost impossible to forget. Opt for constructive feedback instead.
9. “I wasn’t faithful to you.”
Translation: “I want to hurt you.”
Often used to cause pain during a breakup or argument, this confession—real or false—can ruin relationships permanently. Think before you speak.
10. “You’re great at oral sex.”
Translation: “I want more.”
Take it as a compliment and an invitation to keep up the good work!
The Takeaway:
Sex is a vulnerable topic, and sometimes people lie to protect themselves or their partners. The key is to foster trust, communicate openly, and address issues with sensitivity. Honesty and understanding go a long way in building a healthy and happy intimate relationship.
